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Thankful People are Happy People

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That precious face makes you smile doesn’t it? Funny how the very act of smiling lifts our mood.  Add a few giggles with that grin and a lighthearted feeling comes over us.  No wonder the Bible says “laughter is good medicine”.  (It actually says a “joyful heart” is good medicine. Prov. 17.22)

Why is it some people are “happy, happy, happy” like our local duck celebrities and yet other faces would break if they smiled?  If you’ve noticed, most happy people are thankful for just about everything.  And most unhappy people are almost never thankful.  There really is a correlation here.  But it’s not, “happy people are thankful”; it’s “thankful people are happy”.

So what do you have to be thankful for? I challenge you to list 10 things everyday for a month that you are thankful for and you can’t list the same one twice.  At the end of the month you will have 300 things for which you are thankful!  (Some days, you may have to dig deep.) I’m willing to bet you that if you made this a habit (being thankful), you would start to feel a sense of happiness.

Now, please don’t split hairs.  I know that happiness is really circumstantial which is different from joy.  Joy is a state of being happy or joyful regardless of the circumstances. But for this rambling, you can think of them as pretty much the same.  Trust me, if you develop and attitude of thankfulness, you will develop a joyful heart and, thus; feel happy!

We have much to be thankful for, so start counting your blessings!  There are so many that we take for granted, we sometimes forget that they are blessings at all.  We can start with the verse below…

1 Chronicles 16:34 says, “O give thanks to the LORD, for He is good; His lovingkindness is everlasting.”

Whew!  I don’t know about you, but I am VERY THANKFUL that His mercy is everlasting!

So take another good look at that sweet baby face and smile. Imagine hearing that shrill little giggle- it just might be your giggle you hear!

Blessing to you!

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Be Present When You’re Present

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When I first had children, my mother gave me great advice.  Of course, it came to mean even more to me over the years.  That advice was to “be present.”  She said, we should always be with the one we’re with. Well, duh!

Have you ever been so preoccupied with something that you missed what someone said to you?  I have.  Have you ever been so worried about something that might NOT happen that you missed what was happening right where you were?  I have.

Do you ever see people at dinner in a restaurant across from the table from one another not speaking, but both texting on their phones?  Maybe they are talking…just most likely, not to each other.

The point she was making was that every moment counts and we can’t go back so make the most of it.  I know there were many times I had to consciously STOP what I was doing and make “eye contact” with my children to ‘be present’.  Because there were other times that I would be halfheartedly listening and after a few minutes, I would realized they had stopped talking and were gone. Talk about a stake in the heart! And I had done it to us both.

I’m convinced that there is nothing more valuable than our time.  Especially, when we are with someone. We ought to show people that we value them since we are spending our time to be in their presence, so be present.

If you’ve ever read the book, The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman, you know that quality time is one of the five love languages of people.  That means this person feels most loved when someone spends one-on-one time with them with undivided attention. Let me tell you this is powerful!

So “be PRESENT when you’re PRESENT” because it has a huge impact on the one you’re with.  Love is spoken out loud when you choose to be in the moment with someone.

John 13:35 says, “By this shall all men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another.” Show your love – be present when you’re present!
Blessings to you ~ Wendy
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A Hundred Years From Now…

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My dad used to tell me, “If it doesn’t matter in a hundred years then it doesn’t matter.” I hated it when he would say that!  I would get so frustrated that I would reply, “Then nothing matters.”  He would raise his eyebrows and shrug his shoulders and walk on.

One day, it dawned on me what he meant all those times when he would say that.  You see, most often that saying would come when I had gotten all worked up over something. Well, he was right (imagine that).  If something will not matter in a hundred years, it really doesn’t matter now.

I’m sure you’ve heard this poem.

One hundred years from now
It won’t matter
What kind of car I drove
What kind of house I lived in
How much money I had in the bank
Nor what my cloths looked like
BUT
The world may be a little better
Because, I was important
In the life of a child.

Well, he meant that and more.  What do we have that is eternal? This is huge.  You see, what he was saying is that if something doesn’t have an eternal significance, then it really doesn’t matter. The first thing with eternal significance is our salvation.  The decision to follow Christ is THE MOST IMPORTANT decision a you and I will ever make! After that, it’s our relationships that can have an eternal significance.

No, most of us will not live to see our 100th birthday.  But like the poem, the difference we make in the life of a another human being can and will have lasting effects. For example, if I came from a family of abuse and I chose not to abuse my children, I have altered my family history for the better.  If I share the gospel with someone who receives Christ and they share the gospel with a million others, my impact mattered!

Psalm 145:13 says this about our Lord, “Your kingdom is an everlasting kingdom, And Your dominion endures throughout all generations.”
Take a look around.  What are you doing?  Who are you helping?  After all, if it doesn’t matter in a hundred years, it doesn’t matter.
Blessings to you~Wendy

 

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YOU are Loved

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I hope you know that you are loved!  You are!  You are loved with a love this world cannot comprehend.

                Jeremiah 31:3  says, “I have loved you with an everlasting love;
                Therefore I have drawn you with lovingkindness.”
I’ve recently started reading a book called You Are Already Amazing by Holley Gerth. She so preciously reminds us that we do not have to “do” more or “be” more to earn or keep God’s favor.  As His child, we are the apple of His eye!  Yes, we are called to live holy and to serve Him by serving others, but not to gain or keep His love.  He ALREADY loves you and me.
Of course, this is something I already knew, but I don’t always live like it.  How about you? Do you ever feel like you’re not enough?  I fall into that at times.  But God (my favorite Bible phrase) did all the saving work for us.  He paid our debt because He knew we couldn’t. He made us enough. Hallelujah!! and Amen!
He wants a relationship with us; with you and with me.  That’s why He created mankind! When we are in sweet fellowship with our Lord, we can’t help but to serve our KING. So the next time you feel like you have to “do” or “be” more or that you’re not enough, remember God has already made you amazing – so worship Him with all your heart! Get to know Him more.  Trust me, the more you know Jesus, the more you are drawn to Him.
After all, you’re forgiven, chosen, pursued; You ARE loved!
Blessings~Wendy
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Transformation

Transformation

 

Have you ever noticed just how hard it is to make a lasting transformation in your life?  It’s hard! But not impossible.

The full verse of Romans 12:2 reads, Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.”

We see TV shows all the time about someone who is transformed from the outside, like the Biggest Loser. Haven’t you seen that person who lost a lot of weight and made a dramatic change on the outside only to see them again in a year or so and they are right back where they started, or worse?  We’ve all seen that or have been that!

But real transformation comes from the inside.  As believers, we must, MUST dig into the Word of God and determine to be changed by the Holy Spirit.  We do that by being obedient.

I once heard a preacher say that the Christian life is fought and won between our ears.  Let me tell you, that was mind-blowing for me!  But what truth!!  You see, we chart the course of our lives.  We decide if we are going to trust Christ for salvation or not.  We decide if we are going to live in obedience to the Holy Spirit of not.  We decide what thoughts we allow or not.  (Thoughts are not temptations.  Temptations develop once WE DECIDE to entertain those thoughts. In other words, it’s what WE DECIDE to do with those thoughts that make them into temptations.)

So how do we proceed with the transformation we want?  Well, if we want to change our physical bodies permanently, we must not only change our food intake and exercise habits, but we must change what we think.  We start thinking like healthy, active people. Rather than, “I want a burger”, we think, “I want a salad.” Rather than, “I’ll just sit here for 20 minutes”, we think, “I’ll go walk for 20 minutes.” Rather than, “I’m so fat”, we think, “I’m healthy and fit.”  We have to keep telling ourselves positive thoughts for them to become the new norm.

It’s the same way with our Christian life.  Rather than reading romance, sci-fi, ect,. we read the Bible and other biblical motivational books or materials.  Rather than watching TV all the time, we listen to scripture and/or listen to Christian music.

Remember the old adage, “Garbage in, garbage out.”  Well, that’s really a principle of God. I believe the Bible puts it this way, “as a man thinks in his heart, so is he:” Proverbs 23:7 a.

So, if you want “Transformation” in your life, start from within.  Pray, read scripture, guard your mind. Follow the Holy Spirit’s lead.  You’re just a few decisions away!

By the way, do you know what impossible really says?  It says, “I’m possible.” Yep, that was free, 🙂

Blessings~ Wendy

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You are WONDERFUL!

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When was the last time you felt like you were wonderful? Today, last week, as a child, never? Well I’m here to tell you, “YOU, dear one, are WONDERFUL!”

How would I know that you are wonderful, you ask?  I know that because you are created in the image of God! That’s right, God’s image.  Let me say that again, YOU are created in God’s image.  That alone makes you wonderful!

Think on that just a bit, will you?  Scripture tells us in Genesis that God made man(kind) in His image. No other created thing or being was made in God’s image.  Just us. Psalm 139:13 says, “…You wove me in my mother’s womb” and verse 14 says, “…I am fearfully and wonderfully made.”

That means you are not an accident.  No matter what the circumstances were when you came into this world. God fearfully and wonderfully wove you while you were in your mother’s womb!  YOU!

Scripture goes on to say , “For I know the plans that I have for you,’ declares the Lord, ‘plans for welfare and not for calamity to give you a future and a hope.”  Jeremiah 29:11 So regardless of where you are right now in life, physically and/or emotionally, know this – God has a future full of hope for you.

What could that future be? Oh, friend, God has so much planned for wonderful you. Ephesians 2:10 says, “For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand so that we would walk in them.” You are HIS ‘workmanship’ (He made you) and He has good works prepared for you so that you would walk in them – just follow His lead.

Listen, God loves you. He created you in His image. Therefore, you are wonderful. He does not require you to do wonderful or be wonderful, you ARE wonderful because He loves you and created you in His image.

I was reminded yesterday that “Life is God’s gift to us and what we do with that life is our gift to Him.”  The greatest possible thing you can do with your life is to accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior.  All you have to do is confess and believe.

Romans 10:9- 10 (NASB)  “that if you confess with your mouth Jesus as Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, you will be saved; for with the heart a person believes, resulting in righteousness, and with the mouth he confesses, resulting in salvation.

I pray that if you have not confessed and believed Christ, that today will be the day that you do!  If you are already a believer, than I pray, today, you will accept the wonderful things He has prepare for you so that you would walk in them.

Blessings~Wendy

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Caring for Your Dying Parent

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Oh, how I pray you do not have to  experience this.  But what if you do?  It’s one thing to be a caregiver, but quite another to be the caregiver of your dying parent.  There are no words for the challenges you face in that role.

Every situation is different, but you can and will get through it. Sometimes, we get the terminal diagnosis and we face the dying process head on.  Other times, there is no terminal diagnosis, but we watch as our parent’s health declines.  It may take days, weeks, months or years to watch and care for them. And it wears on you.

First, know you’re not alone.  Believe me when I tell you, you are NOT alone.  Others have walked this path before you and still others are there on the sidelines wanting to help you but not knowing how.  So when someone offers you a break, TAKE IT. When someone offers to help in other ways, TAKE IT. If you need help, and no one asks if they can help you, ASK for help.

Second, take care of yourself.  Rest when you can.  All those things you feel like you are leaving undone, leave undone.  Trust me, there will be time for the dishes later.  You have to take care of yourself if you are going to take care of your parent.

Third, remember, your patient is still your parent.  Treat them with respect and dignity, even if they are being difficult.  Imagine how they feel…They’ve been independent for years and now that’s coming to an end.  They have never had to answer to you and now they’re doing that, too.

Make some happy memories during this difficult time.  Maybe it’s watching the World Series together with the sound off or telling them things you thought you got away with as a child only to find out they knew all along.

Have no regrets. If you need to make peace with your parent or a sibling so your parent knows, then make peace.  Cherish every moment that you have with them.  Even in the midst of exhaustion, appreciate being with them.

Time is fleeting.  Tell them you love them, now while they can hear you.  And tell them often. Tell all those you love that you love them.  You never know when that time may come to an end.

Ask God if there is something in particular you should do in caring for your dying parent. Maybe, you need to share the gospel with them.  Maybe, you need to read their favorite Bible passages to them.  Maybe, you need to let them share the gospel with you.

But know this…you can and will get through it.  Philippians 4:13 says, “I can do all things through Him who strengthens me.” And YOU CAN.

Blessings~Wendy